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True Life is Connection

Or as Buber said ‘Real life is Meeting’. And that begins when we be open to the other. Which in the philosophy of LoveQor, is the first stage in all process.

I did an image for a glass bubble keyring. I hope it gives a sense of the joy and richness of connection:

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Meanwhile the incubation of the new thing continues.


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Loving What Is – starting with Myself. A Blue Zone Meditation.

Love is the beginning of all good things; I think that logically the unique essence of love is NOT actions first, outputs; but it is receptivity to the other; openings, listenings, appreciating, input. After all, how can we meaningfully love something or someone we haven’t even really (really!) looked at?

This is the foundational time for LoveQor, and I am developing the best methods I can find to enable us to fulfill the huge positive potential we all have when we truly connect.

This is my first exposition of the process of going from tangled and stuck, unable to love ourselves our lives, or others around us, let alone the whole world, to flowing in power and joy, able to love everything, create with it, and therefore transform everything.

(I know the starting point could be our love for someone else, but this is fraught, not always stable as a starting point, although it may be our greatest inspiration at present. So, I think the safest path is to begin within, with ourself.)

I see it going like this, ideally:

Phase One: completely loving ourself in all our levels and aspects

qorstoneBLUE copy1.Pure ‘Blue Zone’ finding our present ‘Qor’ – asking, ‘Where am I at right now?’ We start exactly where we are by going into love mode, ie, listening, noticing, observing. Not acting, fixing, judging, defending, explaining, or brainstorming. Just getting with where we are really at in our own self, our consciousness – as in when we shut our eyes and stop what we were doing. Not trying to untangle the tangles we find.

To take everything in is hard if we are in near-shutdown mode (which most of us are by the time we get serious about having a transformation in our life). So I propose that a ‘tour’ of our inner makeup is a good thing, rising up through the levels that we can observe which make up our complex human being. I have been impressed with the explanatory power of the seven chakras theory. So until a better one comes along, I am going to use that. So, a seven chakras meditation:

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I non-judgmentally contemplate my First Chakra: My Tribe. Parents, family, tribe, nation, race/races, cultural heritage, inherited religion, morality. My other chosen group/s which I feel a belonging to (clubs, online communities, causes, schools of thought, types of people). How healthy are all these connections? How strongly do I feel for them? Is there hurt there, alienation, rejection?

I non-judgmentally contemplate my Second Chakra: my partnerships. Contracts, covenants, alliances, business partners, life partners, co-creators of any kind. How is this level of my being? Blocked or flowing and energised? Money flow should be good if all is well here! And we should feel personally connected loving and being loved.

I non-judgmentally contemplate my Third Chakra: my Self. My Qor being as an individual. My self-esteem. How is it? If it was a tree, would it be wilted, lopsided, lopped off, rootbound, parched? Or strong, upright, powerful, branching out and bearing good fruit? Do I feel honoured, and do I honour myself?

I non-judgmentally contemplate my Fourth Chakra: ‘We all’. My connectedness with all around me. My heart, capable of loving and being loved, pumping the lifeblood through all the levels of my being, and energising my muscles to act lovingly in the world. This is the middle chakra, halfway between the first and seventh. Pivotal; the spring of life. Is it as a stone within me, because of fear and isolation? or is it joyfully alive and radiant?

I non-judgmentally contemplate my Fifth Chakra: My will and Voice. Is it constricted, as when I try to have my say in a group of hostile listeners? Or is it free and powerful, able to speak my truth and my intentions freely and with conviction?

I non-judgmentally contemplate my Sixth Chakra: My vision and insight. Do I ‘see’ the world as a whole, and my place in it? Or am I constricted here, too, unable to relax enough to calmly contemplate and open my mental eyes to all that there is out there? ‘Without a vision, the people perish’. Open your eyes and let yourself see!

I non-judgmentally contemplate my Seventh Chakra. The All. The zero point, the pivot of cosmic consciousness, my own and all consciousness. From here we can see forever. Here we have a sense of the unity of everything, a sense of unity with all consciousness, including the infinite consciousness of God/the Absolute/Ultimate Being. Names are legion; the reality is One. If I feel this I can feel my own ‘highest self’ too, within it. This is My Qor, the top-level centre of my being. I dwell always here, even while my normal qor selves are living in the lower levels – each Chakra is or has a qor to it, which I can call ‘me’ too.

We have now risen right up the ‘Jacob’s Ladder‘ of the chakras within us. Try going back down, seeing how each feels now you have ‘been to the top’. Never mind that there’s a tangle of stuff – perhaps at all of these levels. That’s life! From the serene perspective of My Qor at the seventh level, everything can be handled. In the now, of course, not all at once, but in the flow, at ‘the speed of life’. This is the unfolding, and as we unfold we can love a little more with each untangling, as the flow becomes less blocked at each of our levels.

But wait, there’s definitely another dimension to this to get and be empowered by!

The Phases of all Process

The word Chakra means wheel or circle. This fits with the process view of things perfectly!

tree with lbtf

All life is process. All process has phases, which go in a cycle, or wheel, just like the chakras. This is descriptive philosophy, not needing special revelation or anything. It is good to colour-code them, I think. Names can be thought of but no single word quite gets the meaning fully. Consider that at each of the seven levels we have explored above, our actual functioning goes in this cycle:

qorstoneBLUE copy        Blue zone – Love. Its Question:’What Is?’ Input, simply listening, looking connecting…

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           Green zone: Beauty. Its Question: ‘What May Be?’ Seeing a pattern, a possibility, the potential in what, or who, we’ve opened to.

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Yellow zone: Truth. Its Question: ‘What is best?’ Evaluating, relating, comparing, discriminating, planning.

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 Red zone: Freedom. Its Question: ‘What to do now? Who What Where When How?’ Action, implementation, Output.

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Purple zone: The Balance. Its affirmation: All is in Balance, all is a necessary part of the whole.

Now, a final thing to ask yourself in this journey through who you are: Where in each of the levels, the chakras, am I most powerful, most energised? And then, within that level, which of the process zones suits me best? The answers we give locate our qor energy, our ‘home zone’ where we can be most effective and joyfully connected, most loving and loved.

Then, knowing and respecting all the levels and zones that make up the marvel of our human being, we can truly love ourselves. And then, well we can begin to learn how to ‘love our neighbour as ourself’, and have them thank us, because we will know HOW to love them, since we have learnt how to first love our own self.

What an exciting journey! I hope this Blue Zone meditation has helped, and will continue to help as you use it as a checklist in future meditations. So much depends on repetition and practice! The next thing to add is the Green Zone meditation, where we survey our levels and imagine new possibilities; followed by the Yellow Zone meditation, where we evaluate and logically process the new ideas, and make plans; then the Red Zone meditation where we

Let me know any way to improve this tour of the self – this is just the beginning of the practical application of all I’ve been learning.

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The How of Love

The first word most people say when a new idea is excitedly announced is, “But”. The second is “How?

So, I have a lot of ways I propose to answer that question. The first is to begin. Just begin, meet with real people with real problems, and see if my methods work for them.

What is my ‘method?’ The process approach, where all of life, all good things bad things, things dynamic things static and seemingly immovable, are ALL PROCESSES. And process has PARTS or phases. And levels. So too does love. If we can isolate the stages and aspects and levels of whatever it is, we have access to great power to change them, improve them, or (if they are out of control like bad habits) disappear/transform/divert them.

The process diagrams I already have do help with this. And I hope to focus them down to be the most intuitive easy to use tools possible. The two diagrams I use are essentially the same, just different presentations. One is the Tree of Life diagram. Note the arrows, showing the flow of process in through blue, passing through green and yellow zones, and out into the world through the red zone. Note also the repeating layers, which are the LEVELS of life. Notably, physical, biological, social, and mental/spiritual:

tree with lbtf

This is the diagram of the game of Qor, which uses marbles to stand for ideas as they pass through all the zones. It looks like this:

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The second form is what I call the Flow Rainbow. This suits a workflow board, and also a computer screen. I use the flow rainbow graphic on my desktop to arrange my icons in process order, left to right, input stuff through idea stuff and logical processing stuff , through to Action stuff:

process rainbow copy

I also have a clear plastic one for my desk, and stick Postit notes for projects on it and move them around the process arc as they progress:

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The LoveQor way is a bit different in that it focuses on the initial phase of all things: the Blue zone or Love and listening, openness and input. It also focusses on the ‘Qor’ or heart of things, especially the individual Qor of us, that which we call ourselves, our mainspring, our main Centre. This is the graphic I use for it in the game Qor, where it is called the Qorstone or Heartstone:

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For all of us it is in a different position (Zone and Level) on the process wheel/tree/rainbow. Part of Love is to listen to and observe our own Qor energy, and that of others, so as to align with that and flow with that Qor energy, instead of judging and trying to change ourselves and others in our Qor. To change the Qor is impossible anyway – all we can do is stunt and cramp the natural energy flow. That is what is commonly called making ourselves and others ‘DO YOUR DUTY’. It is the ‘control paradigm’ as opposed to the ‘release paradigm’ as Steven Covey calls them.

Here at LoveQor we are all about the RELEASE paradigm. AND the CONNECTION paradigm: once we have released our Qor energy, we need to find ways to express it in connection and partnership with others who appreciate and can use it, in a co-creative way that enriches everyone.  If we all know our ‘home zone’ or Qor, in the Tree of Life, we will all know more clearly who to connect with, and how, and of course What to do. Our Red zone can then be fully activated. That’s the Output or Freedom stage, and we all connect too little and flow too little to get nearly enough of the red zone flow. And only in the Red Zone do we find freedom, and reward, and prosperity, because that is the output stage, the stage that people are able to receive and use, and therefore value and are willing to trade us for, or PAY us! 🙂

So, I am totally convinced that the release of our Qor energy through love and going on through beauty of ideas, logic and planning right round to action and output, is THE way to have health and happiness, and meaning and joy. If the flow of energy through the phases is blocked, that is frustration, misery, ill-health and poverty. So, LoveQor is all about the Flow. And picturing it clearly, and applying it in our personal and social lives.

I will be reporting in this blog on how it goes with the people who join LoveQor and meet with me to discuss and practice the process way of Love, Beauty, Truth and Freedom. Watch this space.

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