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The How of Love

The first word most people say when a new idea is excitedly announced is, “But”. The second is “How?

So, I have a lot of ways I propose to answer that question. The first is to begin. Just begin, meet with real people with real problems, and see if my methods work for them.

What is my ‘method?’ The process approach, where all of life, all good things bad things, things dynamic things static and seemingly immovable, are ALL PROCESSES. And process has PARTS or phases. And levels. So too does love. If we can isolate the stages and aspects and levels of whatever it is, we have access to great power to change them, improve them, or (if they are out of control like bad habits) disappear/transform/divert them.

The process diagrams I already have do help with this. And I hope to focus them down to be the most intuitive easy to use tools possible. The two diagrams I use are essentially the same, just different presentations. One is the Tree of Life diagram. Note the arrows, showing the flow of process in through blue, passing through green and yellow zones, and out into the world through the red zone. Note also the repeating layers, which are the LEVELS of life. Notably, physical, biological, social, and mental/spiritual:

tree with lbtf

This is the diagram of the game of Qor, which uses marbles to stand for ideas as they pass through all the zones. It looks like this:

Qor  game plate  reduced 11 04 13


The second form is what I call the Flow Rainbow. This suits a workflow board, and also a computer screen. I use the flow rainbow graphic on my desktop to arrange my icons in process order, left to right, input stuff through idea stuff and logical processing stuff , through to Action stuff:

process rainbow copy

I also have a clear plastic one for my desk, and stick Postit notes for projects on it and move them around the process arc as they progress:

FLOW RAINBOW reduced 14 07 12


The LoveQor way is a bit different in that it focuses on the initial phase of all things: the Blue zone or Love and listening, openness and input. It also focusses on the ‘Qor’ or heart of things, especially the individual Qor of us, that which we call ourselves, our mainspring, our main Centre. This is the graphic I use for it in the game Qor, where it is called the Qorstone or Heartstone:

heartstone crystal EDITED with AMBER OVERLAY 15 8 11

For all of us it is in a different position (Zone and Level) on the process wheel/tree/rainbow. Part of Love is to listen to and observe our own Qor energy, and that of others, so as to align with that and flow with that Qor energy, instead of judging and trying to change ourselves and others in our Qor. To change the Qor is impossible anyway – all we can do is stunt and cramp the natural energy flow. That is what is commonly called making ourselves and others ‘DO YOUR DUTY’. It is the ‘control paradigm’ as opposed to the ‘release paradigm’ as Steven Covey calls them.

Here at LoveQor we are all about the RELEASE paradigm. AND the CONNECTION paradigm: once we have released our Qor energy, we need to find ways to express it in connection and partnership with others who appreciate and can use it, in a co-creative way that enriches everyone.  If we all know our ‘home zone’ or Qor, in the Tree of Life, we will all know more clearly who to connect with, and how, and of course What to do. Our Red zone can then be fully activated. That’s the Output or Freedom stage, and we all connect too little and flow too little to get nearly enough of the red zone flow. And only in the Red Zone do we find freedom, and reward, and prosperity, because that is the output stage, the stage that people are able to receive and use, and therefore value and are willing to trade us for, or PAY us! 🙂

So, I am totally convinced that the release of our Qor energy through love and going on through beauty of ideas, logic and planning right round to action and output, is THE way to have health and happiness, and meaning and joy. If the flow of energy through the phases is blocked, that is frustration, misery, ill-health and poverty. So, LoveQor is all about the Flow. And picturing it clearly, and applying it in our personal and social lives.

I will be reporting in this blog on how it goes with the people who join LoveQor and meet with me to discuss and practice the process way of Love, Beauty, Truth and Freedom. Watch this space.


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